Every young unmarried woman dreams of the day she’ll walk down the aisle to exchange marital vows at the altar. Donning an immaculate-white flowing gown and clutching a white rose flower and her groom by her side, both of them flanked by the bridal train. I’m sure that’s every girl’s dream.
Imagine a situation where a man tells a Nigerian lady that he would prefer only a traditional marriage, hmm..she may take off at rocket speed and dump him for good! How dare you shatter her long built dreams? Do you know what you’re saying bros? When friends like Bimpe, Biliki and Ngozi had the best white weddings in town, you want to wed me in my village and get done with it…Abeg, Oga I no marry again! Naija ladies like white weddings so much. Most times it’s not just about the uniqueness of wedding in the church, it’s about the pomp and ceremony.
Almost everyone wants to show off in style. Hence after an unspectacular, hurried, low key traditional wedding, they go on to do the one they consider as the main wedding (white wedding) in a big way.
The question is:Why is traditional marriage less considered by Africans?
I’ve seen cases where, despite the couple’s financial constraints or a situation where the bride gets pregnant before marriage, situations like these that would prevent having a white wedding, Yet most couples damn the consequences and go out of their way to still have the white wedding. To them, It’s a MUST!
Most Christians believe you’ve not truly wedded if it didn’t take place in the church.
I once heard one revered ‘mummy-in-the-Lord’ say that it is a sin for a man to sleep with his ‘wife’ if the white wedding is not done, even though the dowry has been paid. Haba! I was like, ‘that’s insane! Where e dey for bible ni, Iya Evangelist?‘ This is how they go about propagating lies under the guise of Christianity. Are we saying that our cultural marriage is not sufficient? Weren’t all the marriages recorded in the Bible done the traditional way? Not only did Jesus honor the wedding invitation at Cana, He performed by turning water into wine. The first miracle attributed to Jesus happened in a traditional wedding!
Jesus go the wedding go ‘shayo’…E say make everybody flex…Drink as u like! So who be dis people wey wan holy pass my Jesus? Who says traditional wedding isn’t good enough?
Bikonu, Church wedding, Court wedding, Traditional wedding are legal enough to join two people as husband and wife and seal the union. If you ask me, none is lesser/greater than the other. It’s a matter of choice and perspective!