In our society, male virginity is seen as something shameful and defective, Probably because the society reads a man’s sexual inexperience as a fundamental failure, so therefore no guy wants to be publicly labelled a “virgin”; they all want to be known gurus in ‘bedmatics’. Funny enough, I asked one of my friends why he couldn’t publicly admit that he is a virgin. His answer was straight forward, “It definitely means I’m not man enough”.
Does being a man really mean how many ladies you have slept with?
We teach our daughters to wait till they get married before opening their legs for any man but do we teach our sons the same?
Men have completely different social expectations and are not held accountable for any sexual mistake. A man can sleep around and get away with it but a lady that behaves the same way is labelled a “slut”. Is virginity only meant for the ladies?
Its funny how the society expects unmarried females to be virgins but thinks its shameful and unmanly for the unmarried men to be the same. Actually, if ladies are supposed to be virgins on their wedding night and it is expected that men should be sex gurus, how then do they gain the sexual experience that the society deems fit if not by having sex with the ladies that are supposed to be virgins?
What am I trying to say? Masculinity has nothing to do with virginity. It is actually nonsensical that the society regard men with great sexual experience as real men. So, if you are a guy and you are still a virgin, there is nothing to be ashamed of. After all, it doesn’t depict who you are.
You don’t have to lose your virginity to prove that you are a real man.
Anna Fina studied Law at the prestigious Ebonyi State University, Abakiliki. She loves to Write.