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The Misconceptions of Gender Equality

Diary of a Husband Material

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Accusations.

The narrative of having either of the two types of partners is gradually making room for the third category. The rich and faithful. The intelligent and handsome. And then the homely and help-mate.

In case you haven’t heard, those have been some of the overriding comments from most Nigerian ladies who have seen clips or pictures of Serena Williams’ multimillionaire husband, Alexis Ohanian, play the Daddy role and babysit their Child, as his wife returned to court after putting to bed.And this has formed their mantra for 2018 relationship goals and has touched the fanbase of so many diverse opinions.

In the past few days, my social media space has been flooded with women who hold these provocative views that Nigerian men, especially the wealthy ones, would never do such. Rather, they’ll employ a nanny- since their only area of domestic specialty is pinning the woman down during sex.

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FACE OF THE CAVE FOR THE WEEK (Appreciation of Beauty and Excellence)

The surest place to find the loveliest faces, right here, as always.


Name: Nwankwo Flora


State: Enugu


Field: Law


Likes: Honesty
Dislikes: Lies,Double standards


Favourite Quote: “A ‘No’ uttered from deepest conviction is better and greater than a ‘Yes’ merely uttered to please”

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Name: Chukwuebuka Umennadi


State: Anambra


Occupation: Military
Hobbies: Adventures(biking, stunt) dancing and gyming.


Likes: Honestly, Truth and Justice.
Dislikes: Dishonesty, Lies and Injustice.


Favourite Quote: “You don’t have to be great before you start but you have to start to be great.”

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“When one man, for whatever reason, has the opportunity to lead an extraordinary life, he has no right to keep it to himself.” – Jacques Cousteau

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FACE OF THE CAVE FOR THE WEEK (Appreciation of Beauty and Excellence)

This week’s lovely faces are Faith and Romeo. See their profiles and stunning photos below.


Name – Faith Chinyere Eligbue


State- Anambra
Field – Social Work


Likes – Networking, Travelling, Reading, Sleeping.
Dislikes – Tribalism, Judgemental, Deceit.


Favourite Quote – “The smartest thing a woman can learn is to need a man.”


Contact – Eligbue Faith |Facebook

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Name: Romeo Ugwuala


State: Abia
Profession: Politician/ Business man.


Likes: Reading, Watching the News, leadership roles.
Dislikes: Lies, Violence, Bandwagonism.


Favourite Quote: “Man know thyself is no abuse but the best advice of mankind.”


Contact: Romeo Ugwala |Facebook

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“Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.” – George Bernard Shaw

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FACE OF THE CAVE FOR THE WEEK (Appreciation of Beauty and Excellence)

Every week we honour the best faces you can find on the planet, not just for making us drool in awe of their good looks, but for being exceptionally unique.
This week’s faces are: Mario and Esther.


Name: Erewhesa O. Francis


State: Delta


Field: ICT


Likes: Smart and brilliant minds
Dislike: Laziness


Favourite Quote: “Never allow anyone break your spirit nor take your dreams”


Contact: Erewhesa Mario France |Facebook

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Name: Esther Uma


State: Abia


Field /Profession: Student |Biomedical Technology


Likes: Food, food, cooking, food, Dan Brown’s books, Greek mythology
Dislikes: Lies, snitches, social media addicts


Favourite Quote: “To be angry is easy, but to be angry at the right time, at the right person, for the right reason is difficult”


Contact: Esther Golden Uma |Facebook

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“What sunshine is to flowers, smiles are to humanity. These are but trifles, to be sure; but, scattered along life’s pathway, the good they do is inconceivable.” – Joseph Addison

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Sex and Minors – Written by Jude Eze

I hardly ever meet anyone whose first sexual experience was with their age mate. There’s always one older guy or older girl involved.
I had my first girlfriend at age fourteen and all we ever did was gist and hold hands; then the occasional side hugs and peck on the cheek which came like once in a blue moon. We were two naive teenagers and were really innocent like that.
Until that SS 3 girl I met during my JSS 3 showed me the forbidden fruit; she was nineteen and I was fifteen.

It’s funny how African parents see two teenagers of the same age who are fond of each other and try to break them apart, thinking they’re protecting them from having sex.
But the truth is, these kids don’t need protecting from each other.

The average teenage boy is scared of a vagina and the average teenage girl thinks that if she holds hands with a boy for too long she’ll get pregnant. With their innocence, they pose no real threat to each other.
It takes the influence of an older person to open their eyes and make them sexually active.

Of all the teenage girls you know who ever got pregnant, how many of them were impregnated by boys the same age as them?
Think about it.
You see all those aunties and uncles in your neighbourhood always calling your kids ‘my husband’ or ‘my wife’, those brothers and sisters from Bible studies, your kid’s baby sitter, your gate man, your house girl, your house boy, those relatives from your extended family; these are the people you should really watch out for.

While you’re busy driving away your son’s female classmates and beating up your teenage daughter for talking to teenage boys, one adult is there showing them everything they’re probably still too young to know about sex right under your nose and you’ll never even know about it.
And because these sexual predators are adults and you’ve estranged your kids with your strict high handedness, they’ll be too scared to open up to you about the abuse they’re suffering. Until you wake up one morning and find your daughter heavily pregnant or your son a victim of STI.

When I finally become a parent, I would strongly endorse my kids to go out with their age mates.
I would also be the first person to talk to them about sex.
And I don’t mean all these ignorant myths peddled around our African society, I’m talking about the truth; the real facts.

Lass lass young people will have sex whether you as a parent like it or not.
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FUNNY THROW BACK THURSDAY PICTURES – Dipping Into The Archives

Here’s another exciting throwback segment. Check out these selected Cave Members today and before. Try not to laugh as you observe the huge transformation in looks & overall appearance…Lol

| Valens Ije ColdFlame

i been dey wear coat before

| Babundo Phoebe Oluchi

Just before my Makeup Session

| Angel Utitofon Michael

Someone stole my glasses

| Amram Emeka Ani

Mike Tyson on fleek

| Arunne P Chinenye

Sister Chi why did you leave Our Ladies of the Light

| Akhigbe Samson

I remember when I was a bouncer in Banana Island

| Jude Eze

No be today we don dey force bear bear come

| James Onyemkpa

When I dey use neck listen to song

| Augustine Pianointing Gcfr

When we be dey snapchat with Father Christmas filter

| Adeniyi Aia

Before and after 50 years in za wilderness

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FACE OF THE CAVE FOR THE WEEK (Appreciation of Beauty and Excellence)

Every week we honour the best faces you can find on the planet, not just for making us drool in awe of their good looks, but for being exceptionally unique.
This week’s faces are: Ruth and Gabriel.


Name: Ewy Ruth Aigbogun


State: Edo
Field: Philosophy and Early Child Education


Likes: Children, Horror/ Movies/ Novels/trying out new dishes
Dislikes: Promise and fail, snitches.


Favourite Quote: ‘cogito ergo sum’ – René Descartes


Contact: Ewy Ruth Aigbogun |Facebook

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Name: Marcellinus Akpowho Gabriel


State: Cross River


Dislike: Liars
Like: The good things of life and truth.


Favourite Quote: “Life is a lesson try to be the teacher of your faith and destiny”


Contact: Marcel Gabriel |Facebook

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“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.” – Mohandas Gandhi

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Our Collective Malaise; Our Collective Amnesia – by Michael Okoye

I do watch House of Cards – the television political drama about the rise of the power-hungry Underwoods. I stopped midway into the season 5 having been thoroughly disgusted by the fact that the couple were going to get away with murder – literally. The series is make believe but I couldn’t help but connect events in the series to our reality. Politicians get away with murder on a daily basis and get an easy ride.

A governor gets elected, refuses to pay workers’ salaries, dis-continues projects of his predecessor, doesn’t undertake projects of his own. He sits in his office and enjoys the glamour and power that comes with the position. Does the square root of fuck-all and gets re-elected after four years. The Otumokpor these politicians yield no be small one o. How come they know our ‘mumu’ buttons and keep pressing at will. It’s because we don’t have a mumu button anything. We’re all suffering from amnesia.

For a people who think themselves smart, this a big problem. Politicians are immune to scandals. It is their breakfast, lunch and dinner; criticisms don’t get to them. They know we’re a nation of forgetful people. They know we can’t sustain a rally against corruption for long. We’ll rather sit at home and discuss Big Brother Naija. They know us all too well. Being in public service in Nigeria is a dream vacation for a politician. They know they wouldn’t be held accountable for their duty. They will simply sleep walk through the whole thing and flash images of ‘progress’ achieved, fling crumpled notes in our direction and watch us dance to their beat. It’s all too familiar.

There has been terrible Heads of States in our history but Buhari is a leading contender for the worst Head of State of all time. Pre-election campaigns of fighting corruption died a familiar Nigerian death once he assumed the role of president. A president who sees rule of law as nothing more than a flexible tool and uses it when it suits him. How do you explain the fiasco about hate speech and the plan to monitor social media accounts of ‘VIPs’ and notable Nigerians. Since arriving, he has managed to sink our economy and apportioned blame to everyone but himself. He lives in a delusional reality where everything negative isn’t his fault and minute achievements are accrued to him. This president has failed on almost every count. But he knows it wouldn’t really matter.

He only has to appear fit enough to mumble ‘corruption’ and masses of idiots would troop to vote to keep the disaster in office. Fulani herdsmen are currently leaving the residents of Benue state in perpetual anguish. There has been unprecedented slaughter in the Northern state but there has been no decisive action from the ex-military man. This is not the first time Herdsmen have made the news since Buhari’s arrival. They keep pillaging through communities, destroying crops and murdering anyone who stands in their way.

Cows have become a little more important than humans. And this uncaring wicked government continue playing the ostrich while the citizenry are at the mercy of the fourth deadliest terrorist group in the world. Doesn’t that scare you? That the fourth deadliest killers are not confined to one space but could appear at your doorsteps to wipe you and your family away at the slightest perceived wrong doing.
The youths who are supposed to be the pillars of the nation are idle doing nothing, saying nothing. Our future generations may not see a country to live in if we continue like this. The situation is dire but power, I believe, still remains with us. We need to wake up from this prolonged slumber and grapple our future away from the people who’ve put them in jeopardy.

We instead choose to prioritise frivolities. We can’t stand up and do the right thing.
This time around, ‘anything but Buhari’ wouldn’t do. It is what brought us to the state were we are. We made that mistake and have suffered incredibly for it. There has to be thorough vetting of whom ever we’re installing at Aso Rock. This is not a time to pick parties. PDP, APC are all parties with very little difference. They are twins with different names. We have to be bold in choosing our next Head of State. Going against the grain has never been a Nigerian way but we’ll choose a different way this time. The rape has gone on far too long, it’s time we kick our rapists in the groin and escape further unwarranted punishment.

This is the time to start talking. Leaving it late has made us susceptible to wrong choices time and time again. Anyone coming to serve us has to give detailed account of how we’d make progress as a nation.

Have you gotten your PVCs?

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The Mafia Church – Written by Olakunle Allison

My fellow Nigerians, fear Pentecostal churches. I repeat, fear Pentecostal churches. My heart aches as I try to articulate my thoughts. Any person of goodwill should be scared for Nigerians; many of whom don’t know they are under the influence of powerful occultists.

Have you noticed a trend lately? Embattled accusers of Pentecostal pastors going before their congregations to offer contrived confessions and apologies. First, it was Kemi Olunloyo. And now, it is Stephanie Otobo. Both women accused two powerful pastors of sexual improprieties, were jailed without due process of law and later admitted publicly that they were being used either by spiritual forces or humans.

My objective here is not to litigate these accusations on Social Media. That’s for the courts. But there’s a disturbing trend here which objective and rational minds must not shrug off. If you do, it’s probably because you don’t understand how Mafias operate.

I’ll focus on the latest confession. Otobo’s.
I just saw a video. Otobo was standing before Suleiman’s congregation. She introduced herself to the visibly hysterical gathering. Side talks, head shakes, arm folds and inaudible rants were visible. She claimed she was sent by SOME politicians and PASTORS to bring down pastor Suleiman. She implied that she was forced to eat certain things and make vows by her sponsors. She later called Suleiman “our father” to a rousing noise in the congregation. She approached Suleiman’s wife, knelt and begged her forgiveness. It was quite a kabuki theatre kind of display.

Now, if you are one of those who believe that these women suddenly had divine visitations and repented, you are the most gullible creature God ever made. If you truly believe that a maverick like Kemi Olunloyo suddenly found Christ in the arms of pastor Ibiyeomie who;

* Got her arrested 3-4 different times and jailed her in Kirikiri prisons WITHOUT TRIAL OR DUE PROCESS OF LAW;
* Made her lose body weight and suffered depression in the process, and
* Bankrupted her because of legal fees to the point that she begged and solicited for money online,

then your understanding of Christianity is garbage and you lack an understanding of the subjugating influence of power.
These women did not repent. They were subdued. They were vanquished. Their spirits were broken. When you get to that point, you will literally see or have a ‘divine encounter’ by force.

Take Stephanie Otobo and Pastor Suleiman’s scandal for instance. This woman was arrested and jailed at the instance of Suleiman. Then she began to speak out. If she had not been arrested and jailed without due process of law by a so-called pastor, we might never have seen Suleiman’s dirty laundry in public. But Suleiman made a wrong move which would later cost him public ridicule.

His first knee jack reaction to Otobo’s forceful, factual and evidenced allegations was to deny ever knowing or meeting her. He later admitted knowing her as a stripper in Canada whom he led to Christ. To further prove that they were very close, Otobo claimed the pastor used to send her money. He publicly denied it. Otobo published her statement of account with his name as sender. He then admitted that he was supporting her financially as a new convert.

We all know the gist. We know how Otobo’s mother went to apologise to Suleiman following series of threats from his pulpit but Otobo remained un-fazed. In fact, she sued him in a court of law (which a pastor wouldn’t do) through th chambers of Festus Keyamo.
Now, all of a sudden, she is claiming that some powerful politicians and pastors pushed her against Suleiman. Yet, those powerful folks abandoned her?

Folks, these women need our help. They underestimated the powers and influence these pastors wield. They found out the hard way that they were dealing with an organised Mafia of some sort. People who hide behind the pulpit to oppress the masses. No true man of God would use oppressive means to get justice. Any soul you win to Christ that way is a lie.
I don’t believe Olunloyo and Otobo were sorry, or even wrong. They were broken. I know what it means to be broken mentally and financially.

I currently have a client who is being witch hunted and cyber-bullied by a popular movie producer and director. My client suffered sexual harassment from him few years ago which was published on Instablog without her consent. He is now suing my client for N 30million (Naira).
Because my client is a private citizen, a mother and a wife and because she really cannot afford a lawyer, she is considering a private apology.

He wants a public apology because he has been boasting online that he’d bring her and her sponsors to opprobrium.
Don’t forget that my client’s story is authentic, but because the case is and will create a big hole in her pocket and huge scar in her marriage, she wants a quiet settlement by apologising for what she knows to be true. But the arrogant harasser wants a public show. Sounds familiar?

You see, may you never see a problem that would make you swallow your true words and end up in shame. You might do this if you’re fighting men of power, influence and intrigues. Mafias.
This is what happened to Olunloyo and Otobo. They caved in to psychological and financial pressure from the least anticipated personas – so-called pastors.

Men who operate like mafias. Pastors who wine and dine with corruption and subterfuge on a regular basis. Pastors who disregard due process of law and order. That’s what mafias do.
Time will prove me right. These women are not converted. They compromised.

#truthissacred
Selah.

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FACE OF THE CAVE FOR THE WEEK (Appreciation of Beauty and Excellence)

Every week we honour the best faces you can find on the planet, not just for making us drool in awe of their good looks, but for being exceptionally unique.
This week’s faces are: Oluchi and McDonald.


Name: Babundo Phoebe Oluchi.


State: Delta
Field: Library and Information Science


Likes: Honesty
Dislikes: Pretence


Favourite Quote: “What would be! Would be! Destiny can only be delayed but cannot be denied.”
Contact: Oluchi Phoebe Babundo |Facebook

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Name: McDonald Uche Ukagwu a.k.a Panzacus


State: Abia
Field: Music & Entertainment


Likes: Honesty, fun, love, happiness
Dislikes: Unhappiness, dishonesty, hate, fight.


Favourite Quote: “You can’t please everybody. You would be crazy if you are trying to. So take sometime out to do something’s for yourself.”
Contact: Mcdonald Panzacus Ukagwu |Facebook

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“Remember, today is the tomorrow you worried about yesterday.” – Dale Carnegie

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